The Real Answer to the Question: “How do you DO it?!”

I’m in our favorite supermarket with the kids.  We’re at the bakery waiting for a free cookie.  Goodness knows how we love that free cookie.  

One of the girls behind the counter knows me from elementary school – knows I homeschool.  She chuckles, shakes her head, and says the words that have so often made me cringe:
“I don’t know how you homeschool.  I could NEVER homeschool my kids.  Seriously, HOW do you do it?!”
(Have you heard those words before? They are usually accompanied by a look of total exasperation at the mere thought of homeschooling her own children.)
I find these kinds of statements incredibly uncomfortable for a few reasons…
1. My kids are usually with me, which makes them feel that I’ve taken on some impossibly miserable task by choosing to be with them 24/7.  (Which, of course, is the farthest thing from the truth!)
2. The statement suggests that I’m some kind of Super Mom with powers that far surpass those of every other ‘regular’ Mom in the room.
3.  It also suggests that homeschooling is radically hard and unnatural but SOMEHOW I’m struggling to manage.  *sigh*

To read more about the REAL answer to how I Homeschool… READ ON at Hip Homeschool.  *smile*


  • Sara

    This is so beautiful and so so true!! Thank you for saying this and being real. I am going into our 2nd year of homeschool, 1st grade for my daughter. It is a challenge every day for me! But God is so good and patient with my weaknesses. Thank you Jesus!

  • Sarah @ In Pleasant Places

    Yes! Oh, yes! I have two under three and it's been intense recently. Mostly because I haven't been coping. I started wondering if bringing our eldest home from preschool was insane and that I had totally read all of the signs {I believe, from God} wrong. But, no, I know He lead us. I just need Him. I need Him to change me from the inside out. And when my littles are struggling, they need ME not lots of kids their age and a teacher stretched thin. It's amazing how the thoughts of this world are there, ready to entice me when I am weak. I am so thankful for that "still, quiet voice" that grows the conviction in me. I wouldn't do this without Jesus.

    • Cassandra

      Maybe I can offer some encouragement. In my early years of homeschooling – I doubted CONSTANTLY my choice to keep the kids home. My days were long, difficult, full of stress, and I was struggling to keep it all together. I even threatened my eldest with the old, "If you behave this way, I will send you to school" threat… *shudder* I am ashamed of some of the stuff that went down in our home back then butI am also deeply thankful for how the Lord faithfully led this stubborn, immature Mama through… I can now look back and see how so much of that time has taught me to rely on God, to surrender myself, and to submit to His transformation of my heart and soul, no matter how hard it is/was. So, although you can FEEL like home schooling is 'too hard' to take on, it isn't. You can do it – with Christ, you can do all things, Mama. Now, my reliance on the Lord is still daily, but in less of an intense, urgent, on-the-floor-crying sort of way. (Thank goodness…)

  • Charlene Sitkowski

    Hi Cassandra, I am wanting to add the components of hymn, composer, and artist study to our homeschool, but have very little extra money to buy curriculum. Could you give me some tips on how to do this on a tight budget? (my kids are 2nd grade and kindergarten) Thanks

    • Cassandra

      Hey Charlene, Oh! Hymn, Composer and Artist study are extremely simple to add to your homeschool on a dime. For Hymns, I don't spend any money really. Just find a few hymns you would like your children to learn (www.simplycharlottemason.com has some lists if you like) and type out the words and print it out. Then, find a couple youtube videos of the hymn (well known artists, choirs, etc. singing it) and listen to it together. Then just practice singing it together… super simple. For Composer study – just choose a popular composer. Look for some great biographies/picture books on that composer and read them together. Sign out a CD from the library or look up a playlist for that composer on Youtube and listen to the music together. Easy peasy. For Artist study – choose an artist, check out books about that artist, and look at a bunch of their art either in an art book or online… you can do these three things for free quite easily, I promise. 🙂

    • Charlene Sitkowski

      Thanks for these tips! I'll see what I can come up with. Are you still on Pinterest? I was trying to find you there, but I couldn't seem to find you. The last time I looked at your board there was excellent book lists pinned. I love your blog! Thanks for the inspiration!

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